How do you prepare mentally?

Marriage is between two adults. You may fall in love with a boy. But you need to marry a man. The difference between a boy and a man is not age but mental maturity. How a person thinks determines his age.

A great man said "When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me." We see 3 things here: talk, thought, reason. The difference between a boy and a man is this three things. How you talk, think and reason. What is you approach to life? How do you interpret circumstances? That determines whether you are mature or not.

The way you analyse thing is very important. How do you change your thinking and mature even more .... Are there ways .... There sure are!

1. Growing in maturity is a process. You need to know that it takes time to mature. No one matures overnight. Begin to work towards it and be determined. Step one is to identify the roots of childish thinking. Where is it coming from? Do I have friends who are immature? If so... I condescend to their level of thinking and am in a rut mentally. Many immature friends are directionless and visionless. You need to realign yourself with people who talk - sense. People who have essence and substance in their speech. It may be difficult to say goodbye to childish people. But you need to do it... for your good! Hang around intelligent people who are achievers. He who walks with the wise grows wise. Ask questions and get the relevant answers from them. Especially experienced people have a lot to offer.

2. Get more mature by reading good books. People learn from the mistakes of others. Read those authors who have gone ahead of you in the field you need to grow. A lot of pitfalls can be avoided in this way. You will get smarter each day!

3. Ask Questions and learn more! Remember those school days when some students did not ask their teacher because it would make them look stupid? They were in fact stupid for not ASKING! Probe into different things and increase your understanding.

4. Think FUTURISTICALLY! Don't worry about the future, but Plan for it. keep future needs in mind when you make current decisions. Your current decisions will affect your future.

5. Try to fulfill your partner's desires as much as it depends on you. A great relationship requires a HAPPY partner. Do what you can to make your partner happy. You need to develop a "other person first" thinking pattern.

6. Mature people dont waste precious time in fruitless pursuits. They value time as a gift and us it effectively. Give the important people in your life your time!

7. Try EXPLAINING instead of yelling and screaming. That only terrifies the other person and inhibits his ability to think clearly. Calm down when angry and communicate expectations clearly.

8. Handling money with discipline is another growth area. Get rid of the habit of "impulsive" purchases, especially expensive stuff. Delay your purchases and plan, unless the offer is too good and only availabe for a short time. Save and Invest.

9. The married couple are BEST friends, but the partners play ROLES of 'Husband" and "Wife". You need to understand your part of the role and the responsibilities therein. You will get better day by day. You cannot grow until you accept and enjoy responsibility. Those who don't like responsibility make terrible life partners.

10. A mature mind is a strong steady mind. It knows to stick through despite pressure. Unstable people quit relationships and jobs too soon because of some trouble. They cannot be depended upon by anyone, nor their spouse. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. Be FIRM in your decisions and stick by your convictions no matter what. Have long term relationships with people.

May you have a GREAT RELATIONSHIP and may it get BETTER!!!